If your thinking of a new way to spice up your relationship or situationship, mutual masturbation is a great place to start. Yes, when you think about masturbation usually your solo exploring and pleasuring yourself on your own. But, have you ever thought about how you would feel seeing your partner masturbate in front of you or how your partner would react to being able to experience you in a pretty hot, but vulnerable state?
Mutual masturbation is something both you and your partner can get pleasure out of, even if one of you guys are just sitting and watching the other. The best part is that there isn't a little black book of rules on how to properly mutually masturbate!! This means that whatever you and your partner come up with goes, as long as there is a mutual understanding. It's also ideal for people who are long distance from one another and are looking for more ways to get intimate. Lets face it penetrative sex isn't the only way you and your partner can experience great pleasure together. Thinking outside the box is all it takes sometime.
When it comes to masturbation in general there are a lot of great benefits. Some benefits include but not limited to; being a stress reducer, which in return can be a mood booster, also masturbation is a great way to be able to explore yourself and learn all your pleasure spots that make you get goose bumps even when your just thinking about it. That's why solo masturbation is always recommended, that way you know what you like and how to guide your partner if need be.
Although, there aren't any rules we do have a few tips to make sure you and your partners experience is one to remember.
- Communicate with your partner: when it comes to trying anything new in your relationship, discussing what your expecting or not expecting is always really important. That way when the moment does finally happen everybody is on the same page and not caught off guard, intimidated or shy. Masturbation is a pretty intimate time when people usually like to do it by themselves and your partner may want to keep it that way. That's why talking about it before jumping right into business is always the first thing you want to do. They may just want to sit and watch you and not masturbate in front of you and that's perfectly fine.
- Make it one for the books: figuring out how you and your partner are turned on is one place to start. Whether it's both of you guys masturbating at the same time, or taking turns watching one another. You can even try adding a sex toy in the mix to really spice it up. Or even something as simple as changing positions so they could get a better view and you may even get more pleasure out of other positions outside of laying on your back. You can even throw in a little dirty talking, if you so please. Mutual masturbation is just another way for couples to be able to connect and be intimate on another level.
- Taking control: for some there is always a dominate one in the bedroom which some prefer. But, if you want to be in control mutual masturbation is a great way to be in control for a little while. While in the act with your partner you can tell your partner how fast or slow or where they should be stroking/caressing your penis or vagina. It's all up to you and what your partner is comfortable with indulging in.
- Have Fun: remember to always have fun!! Everything won't always go as planned, but you can always make it better by experimenting with different things and doing it more often if it's not what you expected the first time. Don't focus too much on getting it perfect, just worry about having fun with the fact that you or your partner or both of you guys are trying something new together.
Mutual masturbation isn't rocket science, well it doesn't have to be. Clearly communicating your wants, needs and expectations is probably the hardest part. But once that's all done and everybody is in agreeance having the fun will just come second nature.
Have fun & Enjoy!!