So, either your already into sex toys and would like to introduce your partner to them. Or both you and your partner are both virgins to sex toys and looking to dive into the wonderful world of adult products. Although you might be at a different stage than your partner (or not) there are a still few tips for getting through this process that could possibly be intimidating to either you, your partner or both.
Let's be honest sex toys can be pretty intimidating even to the most seasoned sex toy connoisseurs. They come in many different colors, shapes, lengths, widths and pretty much anything your heart could possibly desire. So really making sure that you and your partner are on the same page when purchasing a toy that will be used together is really important. We have put together a few helpful tips we found beneficial when either being introduced or introducing sex toys into a relationship.
First things first, communication. We can't stress this enough when introducing anything new into your relationship or situationship. All parties need to be on the same page, if not this whole idea won't even get off the ground. When looking into adult toys there is so much more to talk about than just if it's okay to bring a toy into the bedroom, you need to get to the nitty gritty. You need to not only know if their okay, but also what exactly everybody is looking for in a sex toy companion. There is a lot to think about like, who is the toy going to be used on or will it be used on both of you guys. Does penetration sound good, vibrating or non vibrating make you feel anything? Does the toy need to have multiple functions or is a certain type of material wanted/needed? And if your really into technology, do you want it to be Bluetooth controlled or not. But most importantly everybody needs to be open and honest!!
See, there is a lot to talk about and we mean a lot!! Maybe the conversation could be a little more intimidating than the actual purchasing of the toy. Once you get that out the way, now it's time to do the research. Research, research, research and more research!! Research the manufacture, the website, reviews from people you know, other websites, blogs and even YouTube reviews!! Beware, there is a lot of information out there and you can easily get overwhelmed. Since this is a couples toy, break up the google searches amongst each other and search key words (i.e. vibrator, cockring, wand massager, anal plug, masturbator etc.) for the type of toy that was discussed beforehand.
Breaking up the effort to do the research is a great way to keep everybody involved in the decision making. That's next on our list, keeping everybody in the loop. We don't want anybody feeling like their opinion doesn't matter. This one goes especially for the partner who has already used or is using sex toys already. Since sex toys can be intimidating you don't want your partner to just go with the flow and go along with what the more experienced partners wants. Could make them feel like all of the communication and research was all for nothing. If your planning on going inside of an actual store make sure it's when everybody is available to go or even jump on a video call to help with the decision making and maybe even hear what advice a store associate might have. Even if the plan is to purchase online make sure everybody knows what exactly is being purchased. All parties involved need to know that they matter and the point is to make everyone comfortable and excited to use your new sex toy.
Lastly, the big purchase has happened and it has safely and discreetly made it to you and your partner it's time to have A LOT of fun!! This is the best part, to finally to be able to experience something new with your partner. Keep in mind that although your new toy is suppose to help assist it might take some practice to feel and experience exactly what you or your partner are looking for. Sometimes trying a new position, relaxing more and getting used to the controls is all it takes to get you to cloud nine like the packaging probably says. Or you might just need to apply more lube, depending on the type of toy you have. Just don't give up if it's not what you or your partner was expecting, unless it's painful and/or causing health issues.
Now that everything has been handled and your probably seeing it's not as bad a you thought it would be. Both you and your partner are feeling confident and already talking about the next toy to add to your collection!! (yay you guys!!)
Just remember to be safe, have fun and enjoy!!